Who gets married so they can spend thousands of dollars getting a divorce?

By Douglas D. Gibson MFT

Why Pre-marriage Counseling?

No one gets married so they can spend thousands of dollars getting a divorce.  Love is blind, at least until the honeymoon is over.  He spends and she saves or he is neat and orderly and she is a clutter bug.  On and on it goes until one day they are mad and angry and with each other, filing for divorce.  Could this have been prevented?   I used to teach a class on “How Not to Marry a Jerk or Jerkette.”   I can hear it now, “Wow, I wished I had read that book before I got married.”  The basics of the book are how to keep your mind engaged in the process while your heart gets carried away.  Pre-marriage counseling is far cheaper than a divorce and honeymoon and helps one make a decision based on logic, not the heart.  The bible says in Jeremiah 17:9 “Do not trust the heart for it is deceitful.”  It will take one down a wrong way street.   Billy Graham says “One of the ironies of human nature (heart) is that it often has a way of rejecting the best and accepting the worst.”  When entering a contract of great proportion such as marriage one should go into it with his or her eyes wide open.  Divorce has long-reaching issues that can last as long as eighteen years.  It is a traumatic event that hurts to the core of both involved.  Why not consider spending the extra money on pre-marital counseling.  It is beneficial to both parties and it can often enhance an already great relationship and stop problems before they ever happen.  Dolors Massot says 90% of the young men in prison in the United States grew up without a father.  After the Tottenham Riots in the United Kingdom in 2011, a sociological follow-up survey was performed on the more than 1,000 people who were arrested, and it turned out that 85% of them had grown up without a father.  Divorce separates men from their children and can have devastating effects on the mental health and well-being of children. For More information on Christian Counseling check us out on

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